'We just want to have fun' - teens
say
BY AMANDA WILSON
Guyana Chronicle
April 25, 1999
"This is a different generation. Can't they understand that!"
"Times have changed!"
Those are the familiar responses of many teenagers when they are
questioned about their parents' reaction to their habit of `hanging out'.
Recently, I raised the issue of `Teens as party animals' to a group of
parents. Many of them acknowledged that their teenagers are never home,
that they are always at a party.
One parent said her 15-year-old daughter recently attended her first big
party and ever since, she only wants to `hang-out'.
According to that parent, her daughter will definitely not be `hanging
out' for a while, not until after her exams.
Another parent said her only child, a 19-year-old University student,
frequents nightspots, especially `Nightflight'.
She recounted that in an attempt to explain why, her son, remarked: "Mom,
you're only young once and you have to enjoy it while it lasts. Besides,
this is the 90s!"
Another parent related how worried she is about her daughter's partying
habits.
"Every time I say `why don't you relax this weekend', she replies, `I
work hard all week and I need to free up my mind. It's no big deal'",
that mother complained.
However, many parents are fearful for their children's lives because of
an increase in violent crimes, and the use of drugs, particularly where
youths gather.
"Every time my son leaves the house to attend a party or hang with his
friends, I become very worried. I don't want to bury my only child," one
parent lamented.
After listening to these parents, I decided to ask some of these same
teens if they considered themselves party `freaks'.
One University student said she studies all week and tries to complete
most of her assignments, so the only free time she has is on weekends,
especially on Saturdays.
When asked where she enjoys hanging out and why, she responded, after a
long pause: "You can find me in Nightflight where all the fun is and
(where) my friends are".
She added parents should be glad their children are having fun and are
not into drugs or criminal activities.
A 15-year-old student said she had fun at a top disco once and that was
because her older brother had taken her there.
However, she said when she has completed her exams, she is definitely
going to be a faithful fan of the disco.
Another teen added she hangs out at `Players Club' and `The Net' as a
form of relaxation.
"I sometime go to `Sidewalk Cafe' and `Pegasus Poolside' where I meet a
few friends and just chill out and talk," she added.
A group of boys explained that they are usually at `Shel Shok', the
latest night spot in the city.
But, unbelievable as it may sound, some teenagers actually hang out at
home every weekend.
One of them, a nineteen-year-old University student said she has very
strict parents and so she makes herself happy with her siblings at home.
"I live out of town and my mother complains that the world is crazy and
very dangerous for teenagers," the student lamented.
According to her, she is the last girl of five children, and her weekends
are spent watching the television or walking on the beach - not at a
popular hang-out spot.
In the final analysis though, most teenagers point out that they just
want to have fun, whether at home or at night clubs. But they must
remember that there is a limit to everything: if they are `partying',
they should conduct themselves in a respectable manner.
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